The Parent Paradox Part 2
What happens when a parent realizes at some point in their life that they do not have a bond or a relationship with their child? I am not talking about physical abandonment, nor am I talking about a child who is a toddler or a kindergartner. I can see two types of situations - one is that the parent and child are simply incompatible types - they do not share any interests, they do not think alike or perhaps they view things from completely opposite perspectives. If they were not related by blood, these people would never want to associate with one another. Is it fair to say that just because their is a parent and child relationship, these two people need to "love" one another. It is reasonable to expect these feelings on the part of the parent?
The other situation is a little different. What if the parent realizes that they had never wanted to be a parent? Once again, it is not an issue of abandonment. Let's say that this happens when the child is an adult. You could argue and say, well, if you didn't want to be a parent, you should not have had children. But it is not always the case that you know these things before you have children. Perhaps it took years for a parent to realize this. What is his responsibility to his offspring?
PS In case my family reads this some day, this is a purely hypothetical situation...