Religious Sex Survey

It really bothers me that a lot of visitors to my blog find it because they are looking for 'frum sex'. Apparently some combination of these words traingulates the search engines squarely on my blog. Apparently, my blog is also not alone in this dubious distinction.

Well since so many people are looking for it, I thought I would try to make this blog somewhat useful to them. Here is what I mean:

Chana had a post entitled "Ayn Rand and the Rav: On Sexual Theory" which I commented on, and apparently raised her hackles. Apparently I criticized R' Soloveitchik in a disrespectful way. If so, I apologize - this was not my intention. Frankly, I have not read his works - I've tried, but they are just not my cup of tea. Partially because they are so dense and hard to understand, and partially because I just don't buy into this type of philosophic approach. This is true of many of the philosophers I've tried to read. Essentially, it seems like someone comes up with an idea which sounds good to them, and then tries to mold reality to fit this idea. Perhaps I am wrong, but this is how it seems to me. Anyway, Chana did not want to discuss this further on her blog, and I respect her wish, but I am curious enough about this to repost it on my blog.

So, by now all the 'frum sex' seekers are probably ready to hit their next link, so let me get to the good stuff. The Rav makes the following statement:

If you should inquire as to the essence and meaning of the institution of marriage, I would say that through marriage the miraculous transition from the I-it contact to an I-thou relationship occurs. Marriage personalizes sexuality as the joint experience of the I and the thou, as a community of two individuals driven by loneliness and metaphysical despair to give up their independance and commit themselves to each other.

How many married people out there, especially religious people, view this as their ideal of marriage? Let me know in the comments!